Abuse is not ok. Do not even think for a minute that it is. Abuse can take many different forms. Have you ever been to a doctor’s appointment and the medical assistant hands you power and control wheel? Yes, there are many different forms abuse can take: emotional, mental, physical, sexual, financial, etc. It may be subtle, it may be obvious. Abuse is still abuse and it is not ok. If you or someone you know is under the oppression of abuse, you may not know what to do or say or how to act. Talk with the victim. See if they can see it, just a for a moment if possible. It can be difficult for victims to see it sometimes or to even say it out loud, acknowledging that it even happened for example. Talk with them in a safe place, at a safe time to talk. If the person you are speaking with is an elder, a senior who has been abused by neglect for example, check out resources to stop it. Look here http://www.opolaw.com/practice-areas/elder-abuse-neglectto get resources for matters like these resolved. You do not have to go through this alone. There are folks who want to help. There are those who seek justice for these kinds of matters.